“”Self-love will enable you to take the healing time, the healing space, without fear. Sexual compatibility will not do it. The need to be needed will not give you strength. The desire to be taken care of will not give you the courage. You’ve got to know how to love yourself whether you are in or out of a relationship. If there is no self-love you will have no choice but to do the hellish and idiotic things in your relationships that make you crazy.”  page 177

“It’s a time of waiting, the meantime is. You are waiting for further instructions, more guidance, additional support, mental or emotional clearance. As it relates to love and relationships, you enter the meantime willing to wait or unwilling to wait. A willing meantime experience is the experience of those people who walk or run into the meantime, willing to do the work. The work required to establish a better relationship with yourself. A willing meantime means recognizing that you are not by yourself, but that you are with yourself, and you don’t mind keeping company with you…”  page 180

IyanlaVanzant, In The Meantime, Finding Yourself And The Love You Want.

Photo taken by Nicole Wolcott

“The spiritual relationship is a common state of mind, where both give errors gladly to correction, that both may happily be healed as one.’ “   A Course In Miracles

“Most of our energy goes into upholding our universe. If we were capable of losing some of our importance, two extraordinary things would happen to us. One, we would free our energy from trying to maintain the illusion of grandeur, and two, we would provide ourselves with enough energy to catch a glimpse of the actual grandeur of the universe.  Carlos Castaneda

“One hallmark of wholeness is the ability to love yourself. In the realm of love, a paradox exists: you can effectively love others only when you can love yourself. If you cannot love yourself, you will try to fill the void of your own lack of self-love with the love of others. You will tend to demand from others, what you cannot give yourself. This demand places an unfair burden on those around you. It makes you a bottomless pit; no matter how much love they give, it is never enough.” The same problem exists if you try to give love to other people who do not love themselves. You will turn yourself inside out loving them, but it will not help. We all must learn to give ourselves the love we want. Then other people can love us and it will feel satisfying because it is not filling a void. It becomes love dancing with itself.”  Gay Hendricks, Ph.D., & Kathlyn Hendricks, Ph.D., Conscious Loving, page 90 & 91.

“Yet we all know how much our minds are filled with judging thoughts, fear thoughts, and other thoughts that not only disturb our inner peace, but also seriously undermine loving relationships. Therefore we need a tool to help us be more effective in our thought monitoring and meditation is such a tool, for it is essentially a practice session on being an objective witness to our thoughts and then consciously returning our minds to focus on a place of our choosing, such as mantra or breath.”  Henry Grayson, Ph.D., Mindful Loving, page 244.

Garden doors at Henry Clay's Home in Lexington, Kentucky

“There is no such thing as a problem without a gift for you in its hands.

You seek problems because you need their gifts.”

Richard Bach, Illusions, The Adventures of a Reluctant Messiah

I know I have posted this quote before but I believe it warrants more thought.