“Your subconscious mind has the answer.”

“If you are confronted with a problem and you cannot see an immediate answer, assume that your subconscious has a solution and is waiting to reveal it to you.”

“If an answer does not come, turn the problem over to your deeper mind prior to sleep. Keep on turning your request over to your subconscious until the answer comes.”

“The response will be a certain ‘feeling’, an inner awareness, whereby you ‘know’ what to do. Guidance in all things comes as the still small voice within: It reveals all.”   Brian Adams, How to Succeed.

“You must love yourself before you love another. By accepting yourself and joyfully being what you are, you fulfill your own abilities, and your simple presence can make others happy.”  Jane Roberts, The Nature of Personal Reality

“The eye sees only what the mind is prepared to comprehend.” Robertson Davies, quoted in the Wordswoth Dictionary of Quote

“A good mind is a lord of a kingdom.” Seneca, Thyestes

“As long as the mind is enslaved, the body can never be free. Psychological freedom, a firm sense of self-esteem, is the most powerful weapon against the long night of physical slavery.” Martin Luther King, speech August 16, 1967

“Only in quiet waters things mirror themselves undistorted. Only in a quiet mind is adequate perception of the world.” Hans Margolius, quoted in A Toolbox For Humanity.

“The Empires of the future are the empires of the mind.” Winston Churchhill, speech at Harvard University, September 6, 1943

“To see a thing clearly in the mind makes it begin to take form.” Henry Ford, Theosophist Magazine, February, 1930

“The mind is its own place, and in itself can make a heaven of Hell, a hell of Heaven.” John Milton, Paradise Lost.

“Some minds seem almost to create themselves, springing up under every disadvantage and working their solitary but irresistible way through a thousand obstacles.” Washington Irving, The Sketch Book, 1820.

“The mind of man is capable of anything-because everything is in it, all the past as well as all the future.”  -Joseph Conrad

“To have inner peace as our single goal we need to correct the erroneous belief that justified anger or grievances bring us peace. Anger and attack simply do not bring peace of mind.”  page 102

“Today, allow yourself to have the single goal of inner peace by putting all your attention on the following thoughts: Today I will view without judgment everything that occurs. All events provide me with another opportunity to experience Love in the place of fear.”  page 102

“Evaluating and being evaluated by others, a habit from the past, results at worst in fear and at best in conditional love. To experience unconditional Love, we must get rid of the evaluator, we need to hear our strong inner voice saying to ourselves and others, ‘I totally Love and accept you as you are.’”  page 98

Gerald G. Jampolsky, M.D., Love Is Letting Go Of Fear.

“Because everything you see or notice about yourself and your situation is viewed through the lens of self-worth, your seeing is incomplete.” page 105

“Misperception occurs when seeing is believing, which is what we call judgment, or when believing is seeing, which is what we call blind faith. All human perception is incomplete and is therefore misperception at the moment we say, “This is it!” page 106

“Quantum physicists assert that at any given moment, infinite possibilities are present. Some go as far as to say that there are infinite universes coexisting. The moment you act as if something is so, the universe of infinite possibilities collapses into one inevitable happenstance. When you look at something and say, “This is what it is,” you are pouring your creative energy (attention and awareness) into that specific perception. The moment your awareness locks on to one possibility, all other universes collapse. While in any given situation there may be many possibilities, innumerable paths, the instant you decree “This is it!” all others vanish. This is why it is so important not to give your power to your perceptions, as if they accurately describe what is going on. When you realize your perception is incomplete and mediated by your need to feel safe and okay, you will pause before drawing concrete conclusions.”  page 107

“What inner quality or resource are you missing? As you look inside yourself, you will see that you are missing a clear connection to your own sense of worth. If you felt whole and confident, you could see that the judgment is about what the other person needs or that it is about what the relationship needs or that it is about what you said or did which created some tension.” page 112

“Shifting your attention from the feeling of defensiveness to the question “What am I making this mean?” allows you to reframe the experience as an opportunity to discover what’s missing in the relationship. In Principle, no one is against you; therefore, what you are making this experience mean is the true enemy.” page 112

Read more about the Truth Principles in, The I of the Storm, Embracing Conflict, Creating Peace by Gary Simmons.

“To accept the innate godlike power of our Spiritual Self is very frightening to the ego mind, and we will often fight for the viewpoint that various things are impossible and that our powers are limited. Such power is actually the opposite of the ego, which feels its boundary to be of the body. But remember that our ego has no power beyond that which we give it, and in the moments we come to this full realization, then the ego will cease to exist, or at least for that moment will loose its primary place in our thoughts. By recognizing our own potential divinity, we will loose nothing but our mistaken sense of littleness, the feeling of being out of control of our lives, and our fears and suffering in relationships.”  Henry Grayson, PH.D, Mindful Loving, page 85.

“The connection between our thoughts and our lives is inseparable. The degree to which our thoughts are out of control is the degree to which our lives and our relationships feel out of control. Just as we can easily understand that an athlete or musician cannot perform well if his thoughts are out of control-that is, not focused-so it is true in every arena of our lives. A person with angry thoughts is likely to be an angry person. A person who houses fear thoughts is likely to be a frightened person; and, as we saw above, this often attracts like a powerful force field what he is afraid of into his life. A person with a disorganized mind is likely to be disorganized in his life. A person with hopeless, judgmental, guilty, or powerless thoughts is likely to be depressed. And on it goes, all affecting how our relationships progress.”  Henry Grayson, PH.D., Mindful Loving, page 85.

“What we need to experience, and what we can experience, is a saner and gentler state of mind. This experience is not found in something outside of us…We must work with our minds, with our abilities, in order to have peaceful, rich minds.”  Khenpo Karthar Rinpoche, Transforming Mental Afflictions and Other Selected Teachings.

“Compassion is not codependency. It does not arise from an avoidance of one’s own pain. Codependency arises from a perceived need for love and approval from outside oneself. Compassion does not arise from any such deficiency. Codependency arises from one’s own unacknowledged suffering and unhealed wounds. Compassion arises from our willingness to embrace all our life experiences-both pleasant and unpleasant.”

“We cultivate compassion for others as we cultivate compassion for ourselves. We cultivate compassion for ourselves when we treat ourselves as friends and consider ourselves with the same kindness that we desire for others. We cultivate compassion for ourselves as we begin to acknowledge our own pain rather than deny it or discount it. To truly love others, we must first love ourselves. To develop compassion for others, we must first develop compassion for ourselves.”

“Love is a divine idea, has infinite possibilities for expression. Compassion is a quality of love. It can be expressed in infinite ways. Compassion can be expressed as a feeling, such as a deep sense of warmth and caring. Nevertheless, true compassion is more that just feeling or intention. True compassion is action. True compassion is kindness, service, and commitment to the well-being of others.”

Robert Brumet, The Quest For Wholeness, Healing Ourselves, Healing Our World, pages 218 & 219.

Photo taken at Yuko-En by Robin Hamon

“You can be sure that God did not create relationship so that we would betray ourselves. Indeed, it is quite the opposite. The purpose of relationship is to insure that we learn to be faithful to ourselves.  One of the paradoxes of relationship as a spiritual path is that we give our power away to others in order to learn to honor ourselves more completely. We become co-dependent with others in order to learn how to have better boundaries. We blame others so that we can learn to be gentle with oursleves and forgive our own mistakes.”

“It is all a set-up. We look for love and happiness through other people only to learn that we can find love and happiness only in our own hearts and minds. That is the recognition in which the ‘We’ is born.”

Paul Ferrini, Creating A Spiritual Relationship, A Guide To Growth And Happiness For Couples On The Path, page 101

“Honest, non-blaming communication is necessary on a regular basis in a relationship. The essence of communication is listening. First we must listen to our thoughts and feelings and take responsibility for them before we can express them to others. Then, once we have expressed how we think and feel in a non-blaming way to others, we need to listen to how others think and feel. At least to two thirds of all helpful communication involves listening.”

“There are two ways to listen. One is with judgment; the other is without judgment. When we listen with judgment, we don’t really hear. It doesn’t matter whether we are listening to another or ourselves. In either case, judgment prevents us from hearing what is being thought or felt”.

“”Only when we accept the content of what we think or feel or what others think and feel can we really hear what is being said. Without acceptance, listening doesn’t happen.”  page 68 & 69

“But to come into this dialog each person must be willing to take responsibility for his or her experience and respect the experience of other people. That means you can no longer make your partner responsible for what you think, feel, or do and your partner can no longer make you responsible for what s/he thinks, feels, or does. S/he must accept your experience as it is and  you must accept his or hers. That is one of the greatest gifts you can give each other.” page 100

Paul Ferrini, Creating A Spiritual Relationship, A Guide to Growth and Happiness for Couples on the Path.

Taken at Yuko-En, The Kentucky - Japan Friendship Garden.

“If you’ve been practicing thought monitoring, erasing your core beliefs and traumas, and making perceptual shifts in order to remove barriers to love that interfere with your relationships, then you have begun to unblock your flow of love. As I’m sure you see by now, this work you’ve been doing not only lifts the stress and conflicts out of your relationship, it also-and necessarily-begins to heal the self.” page 237

“When we begin to see how the promises of the ego are untrustworthy and unworkable, and that they actually cause many of our problems, we begin to break out of its illusion and enter into the realm of the True Self.” page 237

“And once you live in this place, you are living in a spiritual way, and your relationships are increasingly transformed from ego–based to spiritual.” page 238

Henry Grayson, PH.D., Mindful Loving, Ten Practices for creating Deeper Connections.