Posts Tagged ‘Positive Mental Attitude’

Regrets?

Sunday, September 5th, 2010

“Regret is often a symptom of not being authentic in relation to a particular circumstance. When you fail to speak your truth or act in integrity with your own values and guiding  principles, you experience a measure of torment. While you may have difficulty in defining your own sense of authenticity, you are acutely aware when you are not being true to yourself.”

“Not speaking our truth is a strategy most of us learned as children. We all have been raised to blend in to some degree, or not feel our feelings. It is no wonder that so many of us have become so dependent in our relationships. We have found greater security and comfort in meeting other people’s needs, responding  to other people’s feelings rather than our own. Authenticity is a fundamental component of wholeness. It honors all that we are. With authenticity, we become cocreators of a fulfilling life that springs forth from all which is genuine and beautiful in us. Authenticity is the litmus test of our self-worth. When we truly value ourselves, we live in integrity with our spiritual nature.”

Gary Simmons, The I of the Storm, Embracing Conflict, Creating Peace, page 61.

Design Your Life

Saturday, August 7th, 2010

“You can now begin to contemplate how you can deliberately will creative construction; you can do it by consciously formulating, thinking, and willing, a state of happiness, aliveness, fulfillment, truth, love, growth, both in general and in particular detail. The climate of this may first seem strange and unfamiliar. You need to acclimatize yourself to it. Picture yourself in such states and call upon the universal power within to fortify your conscious mind with the necessary creative energy. The will to happiness must be so strong  that the causes for unhappiness must be seen and eliminated, and this, too, must truly be wanted. Then the creative power will grow; the divine self will inspire you and show the way. You will learn to recognize it and receive it in your conscious brain.”

Eva Pierrakos, The Pathwork Of Self-Transformation, page 222.

Accepting Others

Friday, July 23rd, 2010

“To have inner peace as our single goal we need to correct the erroneous belief that justified anger or grievances bring us peace. Anger and attack simply do not bring peace of mind.”  page 102

“Today, allow yourself to have the single goal of inner peace by putting all your attention on the following thoughts: Today I will view without judgment everything that occurs. All events provide me with another opportunity to experience Love in the place of fear.”  page 102

“Evaluating and being evaluated by others, a habit from the past, results at worst in fear and at best in conditional love. To experience unconditional Love, we must get rid of the evaluator, we need to hear our strong inner voice saying to ourselves and others, ‘I totally Love and accept you as you are.’”  page 98

Gerald G. Jampolsky, M.D., Love Is Letting Go Of Fear.

Improve Your Self-Worth

Friday, July 9th, 2010

“Because everything you see or notice about yourself and your situation is viewed through the lens of self-worth, your seeing is incomplete.” page 105

“Misperception occurs when seeing is believing, which is what we call judgment, or when believing is seeing, which is what we call blind faith. All human perception is incomplete and is therefore misperception at the moment we say, “This is it!” page 106

“Quantum physicists assert that at any given moment, infinite possibilities are present. Some go as far as to say that there are infinite universes coexisting. The moment you act as if something is so, the universe of infinite possibilities collapses into one inevitable happenstance. When you look at something and say, “This is what it is,” you are pouring your creative energy (attention and awareness) into that specific perception. The moment your awareness locks on to one possibility, all other universes collapse. While in any given situation there may be many possibilities, innumerable paths, the instant you decree “This is it!” all others vanish. This is why it is so important not to give your power to your perceptions, as if they accurately describe what is going on. When you realize your perception is incomplete and mediated by your need to feel safe and okay, you will pause before drawing concrete conclusions.”  page 107

“What inner quality or resource are you missing? As you look inside yourself, you will see that you are missing a clear connection to your own sense of worth. If you felt whole and confident, you could see that the judgment is about what the other person needs or that it is about what the relationship needs or that it is about what you said or did which created some tension.” page 112

“Shifting your attention from the feeling of defensiveness to the question “What am I making this mean?” allows you to reframe the experience as an opportunity to discover what’s missing in the relationship. In Principle, no one is against you; therefore, what you are making this experience mean is the true enemy.” page 112

Read more about the Truth Principles in, The I of the Storm, Embracing Conflict, Creating Peace by Gary Simmons.

Change Your Thoughts and Change Your Life

Thursday, June 24th, 2010

“To accept the innate godlike power of our Spiritual Self is very frightening to the ego mind, and we will often fight for the viewpoint that various things are impossible and that our powers are limited. Such power is actually the opposite of the ego, which feels its boundary to be of the body. But remember that our ego has no power beyond that which we give it, and in the moments we come to this full realization, then the ego will cease to exist, or at least for that moment will loose its primary place in our thoughts. By recognizing our own potential divinity, we will loose nothing but our mistaken sense of littleness, the feeling of being out of control of our lives, and our fears and suffering in relationships.”  Henry Grayson, PH.D, Mindful Loving, page 85.

“The connection between our thoughts and our lives is inseparable. The degree to which our thoughts are out of control is the degree to which our lives and our relationships feel out of control. Just as we can easily understand that an athlete or musician cannot perform well if his thoughts are out of control-that is, not focused-so it is true in every arena of our lives. A person with angry thoughts is likely to be an angry person. A person who houses fear thoughts is likely to be a frightened person; and, as we saw above, this often attracts like a powerful force field what he is afraid of into his life. A person with a disorganized mind is likely to be disorganized in his life. A person with hopeless, judgmental, guilty, or powerless thoughts is likely to be depressed. And on it goes, all affecting how our relationships progress.”  Henry Grayson, PH.D., Mindful Loving, page 85.

“What we need to experience, and what we can experience, is a saner and gentler state of mind. This experience is not found in something outside of us…We must work with our minds, with our abilities, in order to have peaceful, rich minds.”  Khenpo Karthar Rinpoche, Transforming Mental Afflictions and Other Selected Teachings.

Thoughts

Wednesday, June 2nd, 2010

“As a man thinketh in his heart, so he is.”   Jesus

“Change your thoughts and you change your world.”   Norman Vincent Peale

“Give your thoughts no tongue.”  William Shakespeare

“When we direct our thoughts properly, we can control our emotions.”  W.Clement Stone

“Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life’s coming attractions.”  Albert Einstein

“The more man meditates on good thoughts, the better will be his world and the world at large.”  Confucius

“We are what our thoughts have made us; so take care about what you think. Words are secondary. Thoughts live; they travel far.”   Swani Vivekananda

“Our life always expresses the result of our dominant thoughts.”  Soren Kierkegaard

“It takes but one positive thought when given a chance to survive and thrive to overpower an entire army of negative thoughts.”  Robert H. Schuller

Relationship School

Saturday, May 29th, 2010

Photo taken at Yuko-En by Robin Hamon

“You can be sure that God did not create relationship so that we would betray ourselves. Indeed, it is quite the opposite. The purpose of relationship is to insure that we learn to be faithful to ourselves.  One of the paradoxes of relationship as a spiritual path is that we give our power away to others in order to learn to honor ourselves more completely. We become co-dependent with others in order to learn how to have better boundaries. We blame others so that we can learn to be gentle with oursleves and forgive our own mistakes.”

“It is all a set-up. We look for love and happiness through other people only to learn that we can find love and happiness only in our own hearts and minds. That is the recognition in which the ‘We’ is born.”

Paul Ferrini, Creating A Spiritual Relationship, A Guide To Growth And Happiness For Couples On The Path, page 101

The True Self

Saturday, April 24th, 2010

Taken at Yuko-En, The Kentucky - Japan Friendship Garden.

“If you’ve been practicing thought monitoring, erasing your core beliefs and traumas, and making perceptual shifts in order to remove barriers to love that interfere with your relationships, then you have begun to unblock your flow of love. As I’m sure you see by now, this work you’ve been doing not only lifts the stress and conflicts out of your relationship, it also-and necessarily-begins to heal the self.” page 237

“When we begin to see how the promises of the ego are untrustworthy and unworkable, and that they actually cause many of our problems, we begin to break out of its illusion and enter into the realm of the True Self.” page 237

“And once you live in this place, you are living in a spiritual way, and your relationships are increasingly transformed from ego–based to spiritual.” page 238

Henry Grayson, PH.D., Mindful Loving, Ten Practices for creating Deeper Connections.

Are You Going Through The Turmoil Of Change?

Wednesday, February 24th, 2010
Photo taken by Nicole Wolcott.

Photo taken by Nicole Wolcott.

“When you really think about it, every cycle of change and period of individuation is about self-discovery. It is an opportunity to reflect, to integrate the past to allow ourselves to grow a little more. Of course, if we shut down when changes come, we don’t grow.  And life is all about growing; life is about becoming more and more of who we are and creating more and more of who we can become.”  page 134

“Letting go of the old and taking hold of the new is an integral part of living a fruitful and fulfilling life. When we hold on instead of letting go, we pay a big price. Mentally, emotionally, and physically we tie ourselves to the past instead of living in the present. Our souls feel stifled and unhappy.”  page 135

“Painful experiences of loss offer us special gifts: a deeper understanding of our soul and our purpose in life, the breaking open of our heart, the awakening of compassion, the mobilizing of courage… I have come to believe that many of us learn our greatest lessons of love through experience of loss. We feel the deep hurt of loss when someone dear to us moves on and we are alone and unsure of what to do next. It is at these moments that the tender hand of God may touch us because we are hurting, no longer captive to the habitual rhythms of our life and therefore more receptive to inner experience and divine guidance.”  page 156

Marilyn C. Barrick, Ph.D, Sacred Psychology Of Change, Life As A Voyage Of Transformation

Meditation

Friday, February 5th, 2010
Photo taken by Nicole Wolcott

Photo taken by Nicole Wolcott

“When we cling to thoughts and memories, we are clinging to what cannot be grasped. When we touch these phantoms and let them go, we may discover a space, a break in the chatter, a glimpse of open sky. This is our birthright-the wisdom with which we were born, the vast unfolding display of primordial richness, primordial openness, primordial wisdom itself. When one thought has ended and another has not yet begun, we can rest in that space.”  Pema Chodron, Comfortable With Uncertainty, page 142

“Take some time to be present. Breathe and be here now. Be in the silence of your heart. Let your thoughts come and go until the space between them opens. Let your feelings of anxiety, boredom, frustration come and go until a softness comes into your heart, a patience with yourself, a forgiveness that rides in and out on each breath.   Let peace come into your heart, all by itself. As you allow space to be there, feel the  presence that comes in. That is the spirit of God, call it what you will. Now there is only love; there are only blessings.”  Paul Ferrini, Reflections of The Christ Mind, page 131

“You know that God is your instant, constant , and abundant supply. When you ’seek first the Kingdom,’ you meditate deeply on the Truth of your oneness with God. You enter a higher dimension in thought…”  Eric Bitterworth, Discover The Power Within You, page 133