Posts Tagged ‘Appreciate Your Partner’

Accepting Others

Friday, July 23rd, 2010

“To have inner peace as our single goal we need to correct the erroneous belief that justified anger or grievances bring us peace. Anger and attack simply do not bring peace of mind.”  page 102

“Today, allow yourself to have the single goal of inner peace by putting all your attention on the following thoughts: Today I will view without judgment everything that occurs. All events provide me with another opportunity to experience Love in the place of fear.”  page 102

“Evaluating and being evaluated by others, a habit from the past, results at worst in fear and at best in conditional love. To experience unconditional Love, we must get rid of the evaluator, we need to hear our strong inner voice saying to ourselves and others, ‘I totally Love and accept you as you are.’”  page 98

Gerald G. Jampolsky, M.D., Love Is Letting Go Of Fear.

Improve Your Self-Worth

Friday, July 9th, 2010

“Because everything you see or notice about yourself and your situation is viewed through the lens of self-worth, your seeing is incomplete.” page 105

“Misperception occurs when seeing is believing, which is what we call judgment, or when believing is seeing, which is what we call blind faith. All human perception is incomplete and is therefore misperception at the moment we say, “This is it!” page 106

“Quantum physicists assert that at any given moment, infinite possibilities are present. Some go as far as to say that there are infinite universes coexisting. The moment you act as if something is so, the universe of infinite possibilities collapses into one inevitable happenstance. When you look at something and say, “This is what it is,” you are pouring your creative energy (attention and awareness) into that specific perception. The moment your awareness locks on to one possibility, all other universes collapse. While in any given situation there may be many possibilities, innumerable paths, the instant you decree “This is it!” all others vanish. This is why it is so important not to give your power to your perceptions, as if they accurately describe what is going on. When you realize your perception is incomplete and mediated by your need to feel safe and okay, you will pause before drawing concrete conclusions.”  page 107

“What inner quality or resource are you missing? As you look inside yourself, you will see that you are missing a clear connection to your own sense of worth. If you felt whole and confident, you could see that the judgment is about what the other person needs or that it is about what the relationship needs or that it is about what you said or did which created some tension.” page 112

“Shifting your attention from the feeling of defensiveness to the question “What am I making this mean?” allows you to reframe the experience as an opportunity to discover what’s missing in the relationship. In Principle, no one is against you; therefore, what you are making this experience mean is the true enemy.” page 112

Read more about the Truth Principles in, The I of the Storm, Embracing Conflict, Creating Peace by Gary Simmons.

Relationship School

Saturday, May 29th, 2010

Photo taken at Yuko-En by Robin Hamon

“You can be sure that God did not create relationship so that we would betray ourselves. Indeed, it is quite the opposite. The purpose of relationship is to insure that we learn to be faithful to ourselves.  One of the paradoxes of relationship as a spiritual path is that we give our power away to others in order to learn to honor ourselves more completely. We become co-dependent with others in order to learn how to have better boundaries. We blame others so that we can learn to be gentle with oursleves and forgive our own mistakes.”

“It is all a set-up. We look for love and happiness through other people only to learn that we can find love and happiness only in our own hearts and minds. That is the recognition in which the ‘We’ is born.”

Paul Ferrini, Creating A Spiritual Relationship, A Guide To Growth And Happiness For Couples On The Path, page 101

Communication And Relationship

Monday, May 24th, 2010

“Differences are as important as similarities in a relationship. It’s easy to love people who agree with us and share our values and interests. It’s not so easy to love people who disagree with us and have very different values and interests. To do this, we must love unconditionally. Our love must be based on acceptance, not on agreement.”  page 57

“Honest, non-blaming communication is necessary on a regular basis in a relationship. The essence of communication is listening. First we must listen to our thoughts and feelings and take responsibility for them before we can express them to others. Then, once we have expressed how we think and feel in a non-blaming way to others, we need to listen to how others think and feel. At least to two thirds of all helpful communication involves listening.”

“There are two ways to listen. One is with judgment; the other is without judgment. When we listen with judgment, we don’t really hear. It doesn’t matter whether we are listening to another or ourselves. In either case, judgment prevents us from hearing what is being thought or felt”.

“”Only when we accept the content of what we think or feel or what others think and feel can we really hear what is being said. Without acceptance, listening doesn’t happen.”  page 68 & 69

“But to come into this dialog each person must be willing to take responsibility for his or her experience and respect the experience of other people. That means you can no longer make your partner responsible for what you think, feel, or do and your partner can no longer make you responsible for what s/he thinks, feels, or does. S/he must accept your experience as it is and  you must accept his or hers. That is one of the greatest gifts you can give each other.” page 100

Paul Ferrini, Creating A Spiritual Relationship, A Guide to Growth and Happiness for Couples on the Path.

The True Self

Saturday, April 24th, 2010

Taken at Yuko-En, The Kentucky - Japan Friendship Garden.

“If you’ve been practicing thought monitoring, erasing your core beliefs and traumas, and making perceptual shifts in order to remove barriers to love that interfere with your relationships, then you have begun to unblock your flow of love. As I’m sure you see by now, this work you’ve been doing not only lifts the stress and conflicts out of your relationship, it also-and necessarily-begins to heal the self.” page 237

“When we begin to see how the promises of the ego are untrustworthy and unworkable, and that they actually cause many of our problems, we begin to break out of its illusion and enter into the realm of the True Self.” page 237

“And once you live in this place, you are living in a spiritual way, and your relationships are increasingly transformed from ego–based to spiritual.” page 238

Henry Grayson, PH.D., Mindful Loving, Ten Practices for creating Deeper Connections.

Love Lessons

Thursday, April 8th, 2010

Photo taken by Nicole Wolcott

“Through our beloved we are once again brought face to face with what is unresolved in us. We meet again out father’s absence or our brother’s envy, our mother’s cruelty or our sister’s competition. We see our own childhood mirrored in every direction. Through love we are invited to reenter them again but differently, to reexperience and grieve the losses of the past, and thus redeem them.”   -Daphne Rose Kingma

“The truth is that we have all come from love, but our relationships have often been a detour from love… Love is the river, each human being a droplet of water, and together, in spite of our fears and resistance, we are returning to love, melting and flowing toward home. We’re all looking for more love. It’s that simple. In the end, nothing else really matters to us. In the beginning and in the middle, we’re connected with the forms of our relationships, what they look like, what our parents think of them, how they stack up in the eyes of the world, and whether we’re getting our share of the goodies: sexually, emotionally, and financially.”

“But in the end, we won’t care about the forms. The forms will be as multitudinous as the stars and all that will matter is the love that was in them. No one can escape the divine upheaval of love. I haven’t; you won’t; our neighbors and strangers and family won’t either. Love is coming to find us. All of us. Because love is our essence. Love is who we are.”~ Daphne Rose Kingma, “The Future of Love” ~

Having Trouble Creating Love In Your Life? Allow Hypnosis to Assist You In Removing The Barriers.

Sunday, February 14th, 2010
Photo taken by Nicole Wolcott

Photo taken by Nicole Wolcott

“The spiritual relationship is a common state of mind, where both give errors gladly to correction, that both may happily be healed as one.’ “   A Course In Miracles

“Most of our energy goes into upholding our universe. If we were capable of losing some of our importance, two extraordinary things would happen to us. One, we would free our energy from trying to maintain the illusion of grandeur, and two, we would provide ourselves with enough energy to catch a glimpse of the actual grandeur of the universe.  Carlos Castaneda

“One hallmark of wholeness is the ability to love yourself. In the realm of love, a paradox exists: you can effectively love others only when you can love yourself. If you cannot love yourself, you will try to fill the void of your own lack of self-love with the love of others. You will tend to demand from others, what you cannot give yourself. This demand places an unfair burden on those around you. It makes you a bottomless pit; no matter how much love they give, it is never enough.” The same problem exists if you try to give love to other people who do not love themselves. You will turn yourself inside out loving them, but it will not help. We all must learn to give ourselves the love we want. Then other people can love us and it will feel satisfying because it is not filling a void. It becomes love dancing with itself.”  Gay Hendricks, Ph.D., & Kathlyn Hendricks, Ph.D., Conscious Loving, page 90 & 91.

“Yet we all know how much our minds are filled with judging thoughts, fear thoughts, and other thoughts that not only disturb our inner peace, but also seriously undermine loving relationships. Therefore we need a tool to help us be more effective in our thought monitoring and meditation is such a tool, for it is essentially a practice session on being an objective witness to our thoughts and then consciously returning our minds to focus on a place of our choosing, such as mantra or breath.”  Henry Grayson, Ph.D., Mindful Loving, page 244.

Looking For Love? Hypnosis Can Help You Attract What You Need And Hope For.

Friday, February 12th, 2010

“Who, being loved, is poor?”  Oscar Wilde

“Love must be as much a light, as it is a flame.”  Henry David Thoreu

“You know you’re in love when you don’t want to fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.”  Dr. Seuss

“Love is a friendship set to music.”  Joseph Cossman

“Love makes your soul crawl out from its hiding place.”   Zora Neale Hurston